Where Do Cats Like to Be Petted?

Cats drop a lot of intel with their cat body language. Purring, rubbing up against your body and “making biscuits” on a plush blanket are all signs your cat is happy. And what makes us happy is doling out treats and mindlessly petting them while they’re cozied up in our lap. But do cats actually like us stroking their fur? And if so, where do cats like to be petted?

Sometimes, cats flip a switch, scamper off or give us an angry cat vibe. “The saying ‘It’s a cat’s world, and we’re just living in it” is a great reminder that physical interaction with a cat should be done on their terms,” says Casey Locklear, a veterinarian with Zoetis Pet Care. To learn more about the specifics of our cats’ terms and to ensure our cats are content, we invited cat behavior experts to help us understand our furry friends. (And heads up, dog lovers: While we’re on the topic of affection, discover the surprising answer to why do dogs like to be petted.)

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Do cats like to be petted?

The short answer is yes, with some caveats. “By far, the most important factor to think about is that every animal is an individual,” says Patrik Holmboe, lead veterinarian at Cooper Pet Care. “Just like people prefer different levels and types of physical touch, cats are the same.” While some affectionate cat breeds, like the Maine coon and Siamese, have a reputation for coveting pets, the smartest thing you can do is pay attention to how each cat responds, as they have their own preferences, boundaries and time limits.

Aside from feeling good, petting is a form of communication between a human and cat. “There’s no question it helps form and strengthen the human-animal bond. Most cats want some form of physical interaction with their owners, and petting certainly is a common form,” says Dr. Holmboe. When you pet your cat in their sweet spots, you’re letting them know you’re available to provide comfort and relaxation.